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Do you live in a small town? Or is the city you live in so large, you feel alone? Does it seem like you never get a chance to date someone interesting because you don't know where to go?

Many people say that where they live, there is no one to meet. Confined to a small town or lost in a big city, either way, they don't know how to find someone. They are sure that if they just lived somewhere else, they could find their love.

No matter what size the city is that you live in, you may be surprised at how many opportunities there are right in your own backyard. Small town or large, there are ways to meet people you may not have thought of.

Before you run out the door to meet someone in a faraway place, consider the following:

Change your daily routines.

Most of us have a simple route to our daily destinations. Without thinking about it, we usually go to the same spots on the same pathways, to do the same things. There is comfort in the familiar, so we stick to it.

Change your routes.

Take a look at the places you visit. Most people never alter the five or six places they go to as they travel down the same streets every day. When you keep going to the same places in the same ways, never venturing out of the known, it is hard to find a new adventure in an old setting.

Change your destinations.

Isn't it strange how we keep doing the same thing with the same people in the same places and somehow...expect a different result? Make a concerted effort to go to a new spot each week. If you go to Barnes and Noble for your coffee, try Starbucks. If you go to McDonalds every week, try Wendy's for a change. If you get invited to visit a new group in a new setting, GO!

Stretch out of your comfort zone.

If you would like to meet other singles, find more dates, and look for a potential relationship, go to places you have never been to before. Try going to a city council meeting, public hearing, bookstore, library, museum, flea market, or political party meeting. Attend reunions, funerals, family parties, neighborhood gatherings, religious celebrations, county fairs, gallery openings, and concerts. Watch your local paper for the news of upcoming events. And finally, volunteer your services at the nearest hospital, nursing home, children's shelter, recreational facility, or charitable organization.

When you first meet single women, do these important steps to create a bond. Be the first to extend your hand during your initial greeting. While shaking hands, give her a warm friendly smile and say, "Hi, my name is _____." That's the best way to open the channels of communication between you her. She will be impressed by you shaking her hand also because most men don't. You are showing her respect and making her feel special. It shows that you're a warm & friendly person and it helps to lower her defenses. It creates an atmosphere of receptivity between you and her.

When you shake hands, be sure your hand acts as your private diplomat. Use a firm grip to show strength and friendliness. A grip that's too hard seems aggressive. A grip that's too soft suggests that you're weak, retreating or indifferent. As soon as you feel her grip relax, break the handshake. If it's a very quick handshake it indicates an obligatory handshake. I'll bet you didn't think handshaking was such an art.

Let's talk about smiles during your first meeting. A warm and sexy smile can do wonders in getting single women attracted to you. A smile is your best way to break the ice with her. It shows that you are a positive person. It lifts the spirits of the woman and indicates that you're open to conversation. A warm smile communicates to her that you've noticed her in an approving way. Your smile says to her, "You look nice. Let's get to know each other." Be sure and examine your smile. You need to make sure that you're sending the right message when you smile at her. Stand in front of a mirror. Smile naturally as if you were smiling at a woman and check:

1. Does your smile look warm, friendly, and sexy?

2. Are your teeth shiny and white?

Work on the areas that need improvement and beware of a smile that looks more like a forced grin. You probably need to relax your face more. Watch out for half-hearted smiles. This may be caused by shyness but they come across as not very warm. Also, if you smile comes across as phony, it may have been on your face too long. After smiling for a minute or so your lips begin to get tired and freeze into a glazed look. To cure this and freshen your smile, rest a moment. When you're not smiling, don't let your mouth give off negative messages. Tightly pursed lips can suggest anger and you certainly don't want to come across as angry when meeting single women. Also a turned down mouth communicates sadness or disapproval.